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When you or your friend senses a friends grief piling up, realize there's a growing need to release their grief-related emotions. Then, get out your day planner and schedule a time to do some grief 'work'. Shirley Otis-Green, of the City of Hope, offers this exercise as noted in the online article Grief Bursts by Amy Lynn Frost. It's called "Getting Back to Work" and the intention is for your friend to learn they can grieve without it going on forever. In giving them permission to have a grief burst, while providing the safety of your supportive friendship, they can experience the emptying of the reservoir of built-up grief emotions, bit-by-bit, in a healthy, supportive way.
Here's how it works:
Your friend will set up a limited time to engage in active grieving. It can be any length of time but there must be an end point. They will select a trigger to focus on: scrap book, journal, memory, wedding album or video, smell, or song, and then let themselves fully grieve.
Arrange for a face-to-face meeting or phone call with you at the close of this grieving time. At the appointed time, meet to transition back to reality in a supportive, accepting way.
This exercise will enable your friend to keep living their life by "lessening the burden weighing on their mind, heart, spirit and gut." Ms. Frost also advises readers to periodically complete this exercise to keep their grief "at a manageable level" and reminds them that "Grief work is learning how to find a new normal and moving to living in full color."
"Hearts are breakable," Isabelle said. "And I think even when you heal, you're never what you were before".
- Cassandra Clare, City of Fallen Angels
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No one likes to think of death let alone your own mortality. But one does not realize all the small details the family has to deal with once your loved one passes. I would like to extend an invitation to a luncheon seminar that the Edward J. Kuhn Funeral Home and Cremation Services is hosting in the upcoming weeks to educate you on the importance of pre-arranging. There is no obligation to commit to our funeral home. The only commitment you have is to your family. So please feel free to contact us and sign up. Knowing is half the battle. September 30, 2015 at Noon, Chef Alan's including lunch. October 8th at Noon, Viva Bistro & Tapas Lounge including lunch. October 15 at 6PM, 3rd & Spruce Cafe including beef and beer and October 21 at Noon at The Peanut Bar including lunch. Call (610)374-5440 and don't mention you saw this on the website.
La Abuela Mexican Restaurant in West Reading features authentic cuisine.
Growing up in Mexico, James Castaneda relished the enticing scent wafting from his grandmother's kitchen.
To a young boy, the lure of Columba Castaneda's tamale, pozole and barbacoa was irresistible.
So when he decided to open a Mexican restaurant with Glenda Delcid, a partner, there was little doubt about its name.
La Abuela Mexican Restaurant, roughly translated as grandmother's restaurant, opened Sept. 4 at 448 Penn Ave., West Reading.
"We all have a grandmother you go to for something special," said Castaneda, 28, of Temple. "Something special you go home for."
Not surprisingly, the menu at La Abuela is authentic Mexican cuisine, a la Columba Castaneda.
Castaneda and Delcid waded into the restaurant business after years of preparation as waiters in Berks County restaurants.
When he was 14, Castaneda got a part-time job bussing at Route 61 Diner, Muhlenberg Township. Throughout his years at Muhlenberg High School, where he graduated in 2008, he worked part-time at the diner.
More recently, he was a waiter for seven years at the Airport Diner in Kutztown.
Delcid, 33, who emigrated to Reading from Guatemala, also worked as a waiter at various Reading area restaurants.
They met at work about five years ago and gradually began planning La Abuela.
What started as idle conversation grew into meticulous planning a year or so ago.
Castaneda and Delcid, who earned a GED at Reading Area Community College, enrolled in a 15-week course at Kutztown University's Small Business Development Center in Reading.
"We learned management and organizational skills that we can use in running our restaurant," Castaneda said.
Courtesy of the Reading Eagle - Contact Ron Devlin: 610-371-5030 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
Do you have any idea what your grieving friend wants you to say? What they need to hear? Chances are, despite your best intentions, you're often at a loss for the right words to say at the right time.
Grief counselors tell us that first, we should say what's in our hearts using words which acknowledge their loss. Sometimes, this can be difficult, even for the professionals. Take Caleb Wilde, an experienced funeral director. In his blog post, 10 Things You Should and Should Not Do at a Funeral, he clearly tells readers:
"Don't think you will come up with the perfect thing to say. One of the epiphanies I had when I first started officiating at funeral and memorial services in 2001 was that there was NOTHING I could say that would make this family not be sad. I realized all I could do was to be present and non-anxious with people who were grieving. Sometimes the best that you can do for someone who has endured a loss is to look them in the eye and let them see that you care."
This a brilliant lesson for all of us: "...there was nothing I could say that would make this family not be sad." Yet, we feel compelled to say something. Here's a good way to judge your words before you say them. Consider your statement, and ask:
Does it attempt to fix the loss?
Is it about our own discomfort?
Does it attempt to rationalize or explain the loss?
Is it judgmental in any way?
Does it try to minimize the loss?
Is it intended to set a timeline on their grief?
If the answer is "yes" to any of these questions, your words may best be left unsaid. But know this: you are only human. If your words do the opposite of what you intended, then simply apologize.
"The friend who holds your hand and says the wrong thing is made of dearer stuff than the one who stays away." ― Barbara Kingsolver
Enjoy yourself at the Fall Festival on the Avenue, Saturday, September 19th from 12pm - 9pm! Get ready for a full day of family fun all along Penn Ave. in West Reading. Check out the Pumpkin Patch, Moon Bounce, and Beer Garden!
We have seen a lot of things come and go in West Reading since 1937 but this community event is one that we hope to see continue far into the future!
For more information visit http://www.lovewestreading.org/events/fall-festival.html
In 1965 Edward J. Kuhn founded the West Reading Summer Basketball League and this year celebrating 50 years of giving back to the community! As the founder and League Commissioner Ed continues to stay involved and stays passionate in helping the youth in our area.
Here is the line up of the 2015 West Reading Cultural Exchange All-Stars who traveled to compete in Sacramento, California. Cartier Talford, Jarvay Bolton, Colin Smith, Jake Templin, Evan Hargrave, Ben Croft, Christian Sload, Andy Wrobel, Reid Hoff, Isaac Lutz, Jacob Klahr with Coach Matt Ashcroft and Coach Adam Ressler.
Edward J. Kuhn Funeral Home is in the community celebrating life. Congratulations to Ed and 50 years of West Reading Summer Basketball!
More info can be found at http://www.westreadingbasketball.com and at https://www.facebook.com/WestReadingBasketball
Proud to announce that Michael Kuhn was the third place finisher in the Olivet Boys & Girls Club of Reading and Berks County "Kiss a Pig" Campaign!! The top three finishers got to pucker up to pork and Mike got to kiss Miss Maycie May, she's a pig! Don't tell his wife! Congratulations Mike for giving back to the the community that you serve on a daily basis! Photo of Mike at http://www.facebook.com/KuhnFuneralHome
We are proud to serve families during their most challenging times. We are equally proud of our community involvement with local and regional charities and causes. Stay tune for more on how we show up in the community.
Michael R. Kuhn is raising money for the Olivet Boys and Girls Club with their "Kiss A Pig" campaign. If you are on Facebook visit his site at https://www.facebook.com/mikekuhnkissapig
Our family has cared about this community in the past and continue to do so today. We will never forget why we do it and will continue to do so into the future. Why? Because our family is your family and we will never slow down in doing what is right. A new website at www.KuhnFuneralHome.com, a Berks County Living Peoples Choice Award, Ed's induction into the "The Berks County Chapter of the Pennsylvania Sports Hall of Fame" and Michael's successful "Kiss A Pig"campaign to raise money for the Olivet Boys and Girls Club of Reading and Berks is just a reminder that we continue to move forward, as family and for the community. Visit our Facebook page at www.Facebook.com/KuhnFuneralHome